I had the wonderful honor to be invited to speak at a local event, on violence. I have since been thinking of the many ways in which we are violent. Often we are violent when: our pain outweighs our sensibilities; we have a moral entitlement; we are protecting our survival, or survival of someone, or something we value; injustice has been done; greed, envy, or jealousy. The love factor is lost. We are also vulnerable to being violent when we are feeling afraid, desperate, and need to appear superior or inferior. No matter what, violence always promises disconnection. There are many ways to be in the world, sometimes when we do not know how to be otherwise, maybe the only answer is to take better care of ourselves, and what will follow is us taking better care of what matters to us, and the better good for all. What do you think?
Hi Colleen, This might help breathe, and then state a time that you or their father will sit with them to do homework rather than asking if they have homework. I hope this helps. Children will lie to protect themselves, so to prevent them from going in this direction don’t ask them a question you already know the answer to. I hope this helps.